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"Girl Listen"

Now, for those of you that have fragile eyes that can't appreciate a woman for keeping in 100, I suggest you close out of this blog right now. On the other hand, for you steadfast women, that can take all of life's punches and still press on, this blog is for you.

"Girl Listen" is the phrase that my friends use when they are about to share some real deep stuff with me. My girls value my opinion because they know, Toni Lynn is going to give it to them RAW. I don't sugarcoat anything because I love my friends. I want them to know that. Whenever I give feedback to a given situation that I am presented with, I empathize before I rationalize the situation. I keep my girl's best interest at heart at all times and I refrain from giving them direct orders. Who the heck am I to tell my girl what she "Needs" to do. It is her life and she will ultimately make her own decisions.

Okay, to the important stuff. It perturbs me to talk to women that only want to share the good things that are taking place in their lives with other women. They want to brag about the nice car they drive, the nice rags they possess, the good job they have, the huge house they live in and so on and so on. Their goal is to paint this "Fantasy Life" to other women so that they can look and feel as though their life is just peachy. I'm sure that you know women like that. We all do. Now, "Girl Listen!" Underneath that BMW you drive, underneath those Gucci pumps you rock, underneath that $150,000 a year job you have and that gigantic house you and your husband live in....YOU STILL BLEED LIKE I BLEED! Stop pretending like your life is perfect girl! No one has the perfect life. No woman is better than another! We all experience the same hurts that come from the men in our lives, our children, and from other scandalous, miserable women that despise seeing us happy when we have a good thing going. "Girl Listen," don't only share those good things that you experience. Share the bad things too. You never know what the next woman may be going thru. Don't just sit back and listen to other women cry on your cry with them. Share your hurts. Help rebuild each other. We as women need support. It is a cruel world out here and we as women endure so much, but yet and still we have to remain strong for the sake of our children.

"Girl Listen," why is it that when I share my life experience with women and ask them not to breathe a word to anyone else, they go right back and Gossip about what I asked them not to discuss. Get your bibles and read what the good book says about Gossip. Gossip is not recognized as the Character of God. People vent and open up because their burdens may be too heavy to carry alone. And instead of you being there to Help, you end up making their burdens even heavier and harder to bear. "Girl Listen," Loyalty takes you a long way in life. When you are recognized as being a loyal person, your spirit becomes vitally attractive. Loyalty in these days and times goes a long way.

"Girl Listen," have an open ear. Don't judge anyone. Be real. Open up and stop painting this perfect picture. You don't have to hide anything. We are only human and we all experience hard times. The thing that truly matters though is your character development following those bad times. Every woman has had their heart broken, every woman has been lied too, every woman fixes herself up real good to sometimes hide the hurt and pain inside, every woman carries a load. "Girl Listen," I'm one of those women. Are you?

God's Grace & Mercy will set you Free!!!


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